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Got a few things to get into today, so let’s get to it.

First, the good news.  Although premature, I have my first results from the VTD-PACE “kill it with fire” chemotherapy, and it looks like it’s actually working!  My oncologist is stoked (his exact word), in fact:

  • M-Spike down to 3.1 from 3.9
  • IgG down to 4,718 from 5,363
  • Kappa down to 575 from 1,314

The down-from’s are late April and May #’s. Given that the latest numbers should lag treatment by about two weeks, according to my oncologist team, that’s a big deal that they are dropping so rapidly already. It’s even a bigger positive given that I tolerated the treatment at, as the nurse practitioner said, a 9.5 out of 10 — basically breezing through it. Doesn’t feel like that, but I know it could be much worse. Outside of reactions to the drugs my biggest problems have been low blood counts (which are currently rebounding, finally), exhaustion and nausea.

So yay me.

I am having one problem that hopefully we addressed yesterday. Ever since treatment started I’ve had this weird nausea and upper stomach area pain where it hits instantly when I crunch my stomach forward — how to explain this, hmm.  Like when you are sitting down and lean forward on a table or desk? I get instantly sick to my stomach to the point where I could easily throw up.  I have a prescription for a new med to take which I’ve conveniently forgotten the name of and we’re doubling the Omeprazole dosage I already take for chemo-related GI stuff (I think it’s the steroids that cause that but who knows).  Hoping this new regimen works because I’m at a desk either working or playing for most of my waking hours.

The next cycle of VTD-PACE begins on the 19th. After discussing it with Megan (the NP) and my wife I’m going to do it in-patient again. The oncology team doesn’t care either way, but since I don’t mind the hospital it just seems safer to me. I think I walk around partially dehydrated most days and I’m concerned that doing this treatment outpatient, besides just being a pain in the ass given how far I live from the clinic, might put me in danger of the things they watch out for in the hospital (including some nastiness if you are dehydrated, apparently). I also have no easy way of getting down there if, for example, I need a 4 am transfusion and I’m at home.

OK so I’m only doing it in-patient because I can order ramen and Fat Sully’s pizza.  Shhhh.

BTW I’m currently in the process of putting together a long-overdue Excel spreadsheet showing my #’s for the past four years combined with what treatments I was on and when.  I’ll publish them here when I’m done — just waiting for some data from my current oncologist.  Plus I need to launch an archaeological mission under my desk to find all of my lab result paperwork from the first year of having this disease. I’ll wear a cool hat and bring a bullwhip. And if history’s any guide I’ll smash my head into the bottom of my desk as usual and curse like a sailor.

Next up, ASCO. Although ASCO is, according to my oncologists, usually more targeted at the big four cancers, there were two huge announcements regarding CAR-T successes from this last one.  First, Nanjing Legend Biotech announced startling results from an early stage trial of their anti-BCMA CAR-T cell drug, LCAR-B38M. Thirty-three out of 35 patients (94%) went into remission with an objective response rate of 100% — crazy stuff.  As my oncologist and several others on Twitter I’ve read have noted, however, Chinese trial results need to be taken with a grain of salt.

Closer to home, Bluebird Bio and Celgene announced amazing results about THEIR anti-BCMA CAR-T therapy, BB2121.  In a clinical trial of patients no longer responsive to a prior stem cell transplant and a median of seven prior therapies, the 15 patients (out of 18) that received the highest doses had some great response rates. Twenty-seven percent achieved a complete response, 47% achieved a very good partial response and the remaining four patients were in partial response.

As noted before my oncologist’s plan is to do 1-2 more VTD-PACE cycles followed by a stem cell transplant (my second) and then a CAR-T clinical trial, so it’s really encouraging to see this.  I also learned a tiny bit more about CAR-T trials this week — if I have to travel for one, for example, I need to plan on about a month.  Basically the process is similar in protocol to a stem cell transplant as I understand it — while your blood is shipped out to have whatever voodoo magic done to it that they do, you are in the hospital doing chemo to prepare to receive it back and then watched like a hawk.

But that’s a problem for another day.

Alright, time to dip into the jar o’ pithiness. Was twisted pretty good the other night and managed to write down one of the many epiphanies I have on nights like that. Here’s what I woke up to find:

Every day I’m around is one day older the little girl crying and screaming “I want my daddy” is in my nightmares about my death from cancer and how it will impact her life.  If I had to distill why I can’t think about my future without breaking down, it’s that.  That’s it, the entirety.  I feel like no matter what I do I cannot NOT cause her pain.  Does that make sense?

And yes, I do have the skill to make an entire room go from normal to awkward in one paragraph — why do you ask? Snicker.

Ariana (my daughter) has been on my mind a lot lately — with all of her activities plus the week-long hospitalizations and “salvage” chemos these days it’s hard not to. She just graduated from preschool, which was adorable. At her pre-kindergarten orientation they gave her a t-shirt that claimed “Class of 2030.” Crazy. She’s also in a new phase where she wants to help with everything I’m doing now, which I need to remember to encourage as much as possible.

Problem is, and this is unavoidable, it obviously brings up hard emotions as well. You have to understand my mindset.  For example there’s a new video game coming out in November that I skipped pre-ordering because my first mental instinct was to ask if I’ll even be around this November … pretty sure I will be but this is how I see the future beyond a few days out. I want to be here in 2030 to see her graduate, God damnit. I want to teach her to drive, be her best friend when she has bad days in school, and help teach her algebra.  I want to make her feel better about having to have braces, and share with her my favorite music and movies.  I want to take drum lessons with her, and most of all go on dive vacations with her.

Lately we’ve been doing duets of Disney tunes, mostly the Moana song “How Far I’ll Go.” She sings it all the time so I learned it on guitar the other night so we can play together. I love this but it breaks my heart too, you know?  Maybe she becomes a famous singer someday — but I won’t be here to see it, most likely.  That’s the problem with cancer.

Oh and yes I know there’s a 4-year-old and her daddy who’ve become internet-famous doing this, BTW. Ariana sings better than that girl and I seriously doubt her dad has anywhere near the Iron Maiden collection I have, so screw them and their infinite cuteness and talent.

Seriously, though, I just hope she remembers those nights we sat on the couch and how I smiled at her, you know? Maybe someday she’ll understand that smile and the tears that I was trying to hide.

All the good in my life, the things I truly care about, always have a “but …” tacked on the end. I know in some ways it keeps me grounded but it’s too much — it taints everything, gives it all a metallic aftertaste.  Thanks rare cancer! So yeah … every day I get is one more day closer to my goals (experiencing her life with her) and one day older and more capable, at least in my mind, she is of dealing with the aftermath should I pass away from this fucking disaster.

I really need to start writing down more of what I think about in the wee hours of the night when I’m happily medicated. I hate waking up and knowing I came up with some new Earth-shattering thought but forgot what it was.

Lastly, and so as not to end on a total bummer, I’ve decided that regardless of my blood counts I want to go diving again. Not tomorrow, but perhaps after the stem cell transplant I’m going to reassess where I’m at and see if my doctor will prescribe antibiotics and anti-fungals prophylactically so I can safely do so.  I’m in dire need of not only a vacation but the feeling of diving again — I can’t take it anymore. I want to float, weightless, without beeps and rings and doctor visits and text messages and chemotherapy and the rest of this turned-south always connected never-good-news life I’m trodding through.

Going into the usual Social Media blackout for the weekend, so have fun and see you on the flip side.  Next doctor’s appointment is next Wednesday so I’d imagine I’ll be writing something around then-ish.

Saved by the … 1970’s?

I’ve been somewhat avoiding this entry, as ridiculous as it may seem, simply because I’m scared, quite honestly.  Scared about seeing what I should, or want, or need to put down here.  There’s a stark reality to a word on a page.  Something CREATED that you can’t just stuff back into a box.

This is a travelogue, if you will.  Which makes me a tour guide of … myself?  I’ve always found that an interesting viewpoint, whether as a reporter or editor or blogger.  If you’re reading this you’re on a journey with me, and perhaps similar to the anticipation we all get wondering if the traffic you’re stuck in was born just over the hill in smashed cars and blood on the pavement, I have to think in the back of someone’s head reading this blog there’s a knowledge of what we are going to find over the hill.

Here’s the difference between you and I, however.  You read these words, their order and meaning and message devised in my head and placed here as best I can.  Perhaps you get hope from them (that would be a feat), or more likely some information you didn’t have about Myeloma.  Maybe you know me and this is how you stay updated.  For some I know there’s an empowerment in reading and interacting with others sharing their fate, which is why I make sure to answer (I may miss 1-2, sorry) every comment personally.

But for me this thing is something totally different.  It’s truth.  It’s a love letter to someone you’ll probably never meet.  It’s comprised of words once spoken outloud, given birth, that become unavoidable, and once created I can’t shy away from it.  Just the opposite, I re-read these entries ad nauseum.  If they make me tear up I just keep doing it to inure myself, to explore, to learn, to understand me through this process.  To remember — it’s weird going back two years and reading.

And hey, side effect to chemobrain, I have such a hard time recollecting certain things now it’s like reading a whole new blog, laugh.  I should start re-reading my favorite authors come to think of it.  Anyways …

Long way of saying why I haven’t updated in the last few days.  That experience can be so taxing that the anticipation of it can be too much sometimes, especially when my number one method of coping is to compartmentalize and seal until I feel it’s safe to open the vault door and peek inside.  These entries are often the emotional equivalent of blowing open all the cell doors in a Brazilian prison and seeing what happens.

Don’t ever Google “Brazilian prison riot” by the way.  That’s one of those “what’s been seen can never be unseen” parts of the Internet.

Wednesday morning I met with Megan, the nurse practitioner on Dr. Matous’ team (and also with another member of their team sitting in who works with Sonja, the team’s nurse navigator — each doctor at CBCI has their own group of folks).  Megan actually is the reason I’m at CBCI — she’s a friend of a friend’s sister who related to her some unsatisfactory experiences I had had with my former local oncologist and got me in to see Dr. Matous.  Not only is she as sharp as they come on Myeloma but there’s also an underlying level of tangible “caring” that I rarely see in medical professionals.  I consider myself lucky to have met her, quite honestly.

So we have a 45 minute meeting to discuss some things which I’ll save you the narration of.  Here’s some “highlights,” although that’s certainly an odd term for it:

  • We are definitely in the danger zone.  Queue Archer pestering Lana.
  • We are going to continue with the Dara/Rev treatment for a few more weeks (4?) to get some more data and because it’s seemingly very effective on two of the three metrics you watch with my form of Myeloma (IgG, M-Spike) even if the Kappa is going the wrong way.
  • We’ll be doing weekly appointments with a doctor and weekly Myeloma tests now (monthly before).
  • PET Scan time.  Only had one before so not entirely sure what this tells us, but that was the plan BEFORE I told her about some of the pain I’ve had bone-wise lately (skull, lower back, etc.) and once related became even more urgently needed.
  •  The next step for me if this is not sustainable is probably going to be something called PACE (we’ll discuss that in a minute).
  • After Dara, or PACE, I cannot be off chemotherapy.  Every time I have my numbers go to Hell so fast you’d think they had a VIP invite.
  • The step after that *may* be some sort of CAR T trial.  CBCI is most likely going to have one but given the previous bullet point I may need to travel for one to get the timing right — again I cannot be off chemo given what we’ve seen so far.
  • There’s no good way to prop up hemoglobin counts like you can with white blood cell counts, apparently.  i.e., Neulasta, IViG, etc. There used to be and it was a standard of care, but due to heart issues it’s use was severely restricted.
  • An autologous stem cell transplant (someone else’s stem cells) may be on the plate for the future.  Risky and a huge time commitment among other things.  Didn’t even know they did those for Myeloma.
  • I managed to make not one but two medical professionals tear up with one comment.  Basically that I just needed 13 more years, even if it was slogging through chemotherapy 24/7 to get there (we had been talking about living on chemo for the rest of your life versus not even a maintenance regimen).  From knowing me Megan knew pretty much immediately that that was when my daughter turns 18 and explained to the other nurse in the room, who has a young child like Megan and I both do.
  • One of the reasons my cancer may be so frustrating to deal with chemo-wise is perhaps there are not one but TWO clones at work.  That could explain the weird way the Kappa is not marching in step with the M-Spike and IgG.  First time I had ever heard that was even a possibility.

As I remember it those are the main points we hit.  Couple things to dig into from that list.  First, Megan was telling me how she had talked to Dr. Matous the previous evening and he knew my numbers off of the top of his head.  She let me know that’s not the norm and that he cares about me.  That may seem like a very small thing in a very scary list of things, but it meant more to me than anything else said yesterday.  I have a hard time buying that many medical professionals even read this but man, you want a patient to believe in you?  That’s how it’s done.  A little caring moves mountains.  You want someone fighting for you in this, not doing their day job, capiche?

Secondly, PACE.  I checked with a friend with Myeloma doing significantly better than I am and that was news to her as well.  I also don’t recall that one off the list in any doctor’s office of potential treatments.  I’m reasonably sure, since I’m somewhat well-read in Myeloma, that there’s just not a lot of talk out there on this one and doctors don’t even mention it given why it’s used.  The key word I kept seeing over and over again is “salvage.”  It’s a salvage chemotherapy, so in a way a hail Mary pass.  At least that’s how this feels.  We’re not calmly sitting around pondering quality of life issues over IV versus oral chemos and what’s hot now, we’re calling the National Guard and getting ready to light up Berkeley like the Branch Davidian compound in Waco.  It sounds like there’s some variance in the exact cocktail used with this (Velcade or Thalidomide, for example).

So DT-PACE:

  • P = Cisplatin or Platinol.  Mmmm, 1978.  Cisplatin (actually discovered in 1845) is licensed for medical use.  1978: the Sex Pistols play their last show, the Blues Brothers perform their first (on SNL), Van Halen and the Dead Kennedy’s debut albums, and most importantly Iron Maiden hires Paul as their lead singer and records a 4-song demo including Prowler.  Best band ever.  EVAH.
  • A = Adriamycin or doxorubicin.  What year did Nixon resign, Cher file for divorce from Sonny, Neil Peart join Rush and the Ramones perform for the first time at CBGB’s?  1974.  Those two drugs are the same, as far as I can tell; Adriamycin was a trade name for doxorubicin.
  • C = Cyclophosphamide.  Set the Wayback Machine for 1959, Peabody.  Jimmy Hendrix buys his first electric guitar, my dad’s favorite Buddy Holly goes down in a plane crash in Iowa along with the Big Bopper and Richie Valens, and Cyclophosphamide is approved for use.  This one I’ve had before when I first was diagnosed as part of the “CyBorD” triplet (Cyclophosphamide, Velcade (Bortezemib) and that wonderful (not really) Dex.
  • E = Etoposide.  Welcome back to ’83, when Thriller debuts at #1 on the charts, Mick Jones is kicked out of the Clash, the members of KISS take off the makeup, the first Phish show happens and Etoposide hits the market.

The “DT” is Dex and Thalidomide (predecessor to Revlimid/Pomalyst) but it seems like there are variations on this theme (using Velcade instead, etc.).  Only recognize a few of those names?  Yeah me too.  I wasn’t sure what Megan meant when she said it’s an old-school chemotherapy.  More like 800 of them.  At once.  96-hour infusion, only can do this once or twice due to the severity.

In looking at that list maybe I should show up with a giant afro and bellbottoms humming some BeeGees.  CB?  Still got that pink afro wig?

How’d we get here seemingly out of nowhere?

I know the answer, a combination of semi-effective treatments and a few ill-timed but necessary chemotherapy holidays.  I’m still suffering from the whiplash, however.  I went from the, for lack of a better analogy, “softcore” chemotherapies to the “XXX scar-you-for-life and terrify the kids while it kicks your dog” chemo with little to no warning.  There are so many questions this is raising and emotions churning and frothing like some stormy seas out of a novel where people say “yarr” and the great white whale appears on the horizon that I don’t even know which way is up anymore.  It’s given birth to a few feelings, however, that stand out:

Yarr.  I just wanted to say that again since it’s a joke between my daughter and I.

“Knock knock.”

“Who’s there?”

“Interrupting Pirate.”

“Interrupt –“

“YARRRRRRRRRRR!”

Cracks me up every time.  Sorry, your list:

  • I’ve never “feared” my cancer.  That’s an odd realization.  I thought I did, for sure.  Now I fucking do.  So if someone was just trying to make a point with this to not take cancer lightly, I get it.  Seriously.  No I will not start going to church, please stop asking.
  • Taking that a step further, I’ve never felt the grasp of death before.  I think I know more about impending doom than non-terminal peoples after four years of Myeloma, but there’s a big difference between having a concept in your head with some nebulous future date (“eventually this will probably cause my death”) and what I feel now.  It’s gone from 2-D to 3-D, if that makes sense?  I feel like we’re in the “get the paperwork in order” phase of things and I can’t escape that feeling.  Not that my thoughts on it have changed at all (only really care due to Ariana and her future, yada yada yada), but I thought I’d have a bit more time to get there.  That feeling is now gone.
  • There’s a very disappointing jealousy I’ve hid from everyone for a long time.  I get the feeling all of us doomed do this even though we don’t talk about it, because it makes you feel shitty.  It’s being jealous of survivors, those for whom all of the chemicals and years worked.  I hate that because it makes me feel petty and selfish, which is logical.  It’s just so hard reading about how someone survived on Revlimid for 20 years or is now in remission or what have you when you aren’t.  But it’s a full disclosure sort of blog, so sorry for admitting what most of us feel but won’t talk about.

So that’s where we’re at.  Well I’m at; hopefully you, my friend, are not here with me except as an observant whisper in the dark.  I won’t be dropping dead tomorrow, I doubt, but in four years we’ve torched quite a bit of the new therapies and standards and we’re worse off than when we started.  What’s left looks and feels pretty grim to me right now.

Sure there’s hope.  I’m still fighting along with the best medical team on the planet as far as I’m concerned.  I’m taking the drugs, making all of the appointments — ask around and folks will tell you those are the danger signs of giving up (no shows, not taking the drugs, etc.).

I figured something else out today.  My father, upon hearing my diagnosis four years ago, has mentioned a few times since that that was the only time he’s seen me scared.

I realized today I’ve just learned to hide it better since then.

PS:  You know your cancer’s rare when the spellcheck keeps correcting it to “Melanoma.”

Watch, I’ll have that now too and we’ll all go “how ironic.”  Knock on wood.

Last thing that I just recalled.  Don’t read more into this than is necessary but with all these thoughts of death and the timeline feeling like it’s shifted I came up with what I want on my tombstone.  “End of Line.”  Sure, put some family stuff above that, but that needs to be on there.

Tron dork, what can I say.