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Got a few things to get into today, so let’s get to it.

First, the good news.  Although premature, I have my first results from the VTD-PACE “kill it with fire” chemotherapy, and it looks like it’s actually working!  My oncologist is stoked (his exact word), in fact:

  • M-Spike down to 3.1 from 3.9
  • IgG down to 4,718 from 5,363
  • Kappa down to 575 from 1,314

The down-from’s are late April and May #’s. Given that the latest numbers should lag treatment by about two weeks, according to my oncologist team, that’s a big deal that they are dropping so rapidly already. It’s even a bigger positive given that I tolerated the treatment at, as the nurse practitioner said, a 9.5 out of 10 — basically breezing through it. Doesn’t feel like that, but I know it could be much worse. Outside of reactions to the drugs my biggest problems have been low blood counts (which are currently rebounding, finally), exhaustion and nausea.

So yay me.

I am having one problem that hopefully we addressed yesterday. Ever since treatment started I’ve had this weird nausea and upper stomach area pain where it hits instantly when I crunch my stomach forward — how to explain this, hmm.  Like when you are sitting down and lean forward on a table or desk? I get instantly sick to my stomach to the point where I could easily throw up.  I have a prescription for a new med to take which I’ve conveniently forgotten the name of and we’re doubling the Omeprazole dosage I already take for chemo-related GI stuff (I think it’s the steroids that cause that but who knows).  Hoping this new regimen works because I’m at a desk either working or playing for most of my waking hours.

The next cycle of VTD-PACE begins on the 19th. After discussing it with Megan (the NP) and my wife I’m going to do it in-patient again. The oncology team doesn’t care either way, but since I don’t mind the hospital it just seems safer to me. I think I walk around partially dehydrated most days and I’m concerned that doing this treatment outpatient, besides just being a pain in the ass given how far I live from the clinic, might put me in danger of the things they watch out for in the hospital (including some nastiness if you are dehydrated, apparently). I also have no easy way of getting down there if, for example, I need a 4 am transfusion and I’m at home.

OK so I’m only doing it in-patient because I can order ramen and Fat Sully’s pizza.  Shhhh.

BTW I’m currently in the process of putting together a long-overdue Excel spreadsheet showing my #’s for the past four years combined with what treatments I was on and when.  I’ll publish them here when I’m done — just waiting for some data from my current oncologist.  Plus I need to launch an archaeological mission under my desk to find all of my lab result paperwork from the first year of having this disease. I’ll wear a cool hat and bring a bullwhip. And if history’s any guide I’ll smash my head into the bottom of my desk as usual and curse like a sailor.

Next up, ASCO. Although ASCO is, according to my oncologists, usually more targeted at the big four cancers, there were two huge announcements regarding CAR-T successes from this last one.  First, Nanjing Legend Biotech announced startling results from an early stage trial of their anti-BCMA CAR-T cell drug, LCAR-B38M. Thirty-three out of 35 patients (94%) went into remission with an objective response rate of 100% — crazy stuff.  As my oncologist and several others on Twitter I’ve read have noted, however, Chinese trial results need to be taken with a grain of salt.

Closer to home, Bluebird Bio and Celgene announced amazing results about THEIR anti-BCMA CAR-T therapy, BB2121.  In a clinical trial of patients no longer responsive to a prior stem cell transplant and a median of seven prior therapies, the 15 patients (out of 18) that received the highest doses had some great response rates. Twenty-seven percent achieved a complete response, 47% achieved a very good partial response and the remaining four patients were in partial response.

As noted before my oncologist’s plan is to do 1-2 more VTD-PACE cycles followed by a stem cell transplant (my second) and then a CAR-T clinical trial, so it’s really encouraging to see this.  I also learned a tiny bit more about CAR-T trials this week — if I have to travel for one, for example, I need to plan on about a month.  Basically the process is similar in protocol to a stem cell transplant as I understand it — while your blood is shipped out to have whatever voodoo magic done to it that they do, you are in the hospital doing chemo to prepare to receive it back and then watched like a hawk.

But that’s a problem for another day.

Alright, time to dip into the jar o’ pithiness. Was twisted pretty good the other night and managed to write down one of the many epiphanies I have on nights like that. Here’s what I woke up to find:

Every day I’m around is one day older the little girl crying and screaming “I want my daddy” is in my nightmares about my death from cancer and how it will impact her life.  If I had to distill why I can’t think about my future without breaking down, it’s that.  That’s it, the entirety.  I feel like no matter what I do I cannot NOT cause her pain.  Does that make sense?

And yes, I do have the skill to make an entire room go from normal to awkward in one paragraph — why do you ask? Snicker.

Ariana (my daughter) has been on my mind a lot lately — with all of her activities plus the week-long hospitalizations and “salvage” chemos these days it’s hard not to. She just graduated from preschool, which was adorable. At her pre-kindergarten orientation they gave her a t-shirt that claimed “Class of 2030.” Crazy. She’s also in a new phase where she wants to help with everything I’m doing now, which I need to remember to encourage as much as possible.

Problem is, and this is unavoidable, it obviously brings up hard emotions as well. You have to understand my mindset.  For example there’s a new video game coming out in November that I skipped pre-ordering because my first mental instinct was to ask if I’ll even be around this November … pretty sure I will be but this is how I see the future beyond a few days out. I want to be here in 2030 to see her graduate, God damnit. I want to teach her to drive, be her best friend when she has bad days in school, and help teach her algebra.  I want to make her feel better about having to have braces, and share with her my favorite music and movies.  I want to take drum lessons with her, and most of all go on dive vacations with her.

Lately we’ve been doing duets of Disney tunes, mostly the Moana song “How Far I’ll Go.” She sings it all the time so I learned it on guitar the other night so we can play together. I love this but it breaks my heart too, you know?  Maybe she becomes a famous singer someday — but I won’t be here to see it, most likely.  That’s the problem with cancer.

Oh and yes I know there’s a 4-year-old and her daddy who’ve become internet-famous doing this, BTW. Ariana sings better than that girl and I seriously doubt her dad has anywhere near the Iron Maiden collection I have, so screw them and their infinite cuteness and talent.

Seriously, though, I just hope she remembers those nights we sat on the couch and how I smiled at her, you know? Maybe someday she’ll understand that smile and the tears that I was trying to hide.

All the good in my life, the things I truly care about, always have a “but …” tacked on the end. I know in some ways it keeps me grounded but it’s too much — it taints everything, gives it all a metallic aftertaste.  Thanks rare cancer! So yeah … every day I get is one more day closer to my goals (experiencing her life with her) and one day older and more capable, at least in my mind, she is of dealing with the aftermath should I pass away from this fucking disaster.

I really need to start writing down more of what I think about in the wee hours of the night when I’m happily medicated. I hate waking up and knowing I came up with some new Earth-shattering thought but forgot what it was.

Lastly, and so as not to end on a total bummer, I’ve decided that regardless of my blood counts I want to go diving again. Not tomorrow, but perhaps after the stem cell transplant I’m going to reassess where I’m at and see if my doctor will prescribe antibiotics and anti-fungals prophylactically so I can safely do so.  I’m in dire need of not only a vacation but the feeling of diving again — I can’t take it anymore. I want to float, weightless, without beeps and rings and doctor visits and text messages and chemotherapy and the rest of this turned-south always connected never-good-news life I’m trodding through.

Going into the usual Social Media blackout for the weekend, so have fun and see you on the flip side.  Next doctor’s appointment is next Wednesday so I’d imagine I’ll be writing something around then-ish.

VTD-PACE, another SCT … must be Christmas.

I, um, yeah.

Fuck.

Got a call that registered as my oncologist yesterday, so I was emotionally unprepared when instead of a scheduler confirming something it was my entire oncology team. I apparently came up at the office’s weekly meeting.

Have some bullet points.

  • This Friday we’re stopping the Daratumumab. It’s not working on any of the numbers at this point except possibly slowing the advance of the Myeloma slightly. I’d share the numbers but for some fucking reason all of my labs show up on HealthOne’s patient portal except my Myeloma labs. USEFUL.
  • After review the team wants to proceed with VTD-PACE. I went into detail on what I know about that treatment in this entry, but I meet with one of the team on Friday to learn more and schedule it. Ninety-six hour infusion of Dexamethasone + Thalidomide + Cisplatin + Doxorubicin + Cyclophosphamide + Etoposide + Bortezomib. The first one will be in-patient, the next ones outpatient depending on the outcome and complications of the first treatment.
  • I was told that with few patient exceptions PACE works as the “fire putter-outer,” which I need now.
  • After a 50% or more reduction in my M-Spike and IgG, which they expect to happen within 2-3 treatments, they want me to do a stem cell transplant (my 2nd) six weeks later (time to recover).  This would be August-ish.
  • Once that’s done, most likely a CAR-T clinical trial. They are starting one up in September at my oncology office, but if that’s full they will refer me out.

This has broken me for the last 24 hours. Normally, or whatever the Hell that even means anymore after four years of chemotherapies and an SCT in another state, I can mentally compartmentalize bad news and just examine it in small, controllable chunks. Things like this, however, make my emotional wall about as effective as one made of sand in the face of a hurricane. I flip from this surreal sort of disbelief that this is happening, and happening so soon, to outright breaking down.

It’s hard to describe what it’s like to not be able to look at your own daughter without losing it. I have zero control right now.  I just … I can’t.  Not today, sorry.

Was sitting here thinking about how to express how I’ve felt since yesterday. With the exception of last night, when I bleached my brain out with a combination of the darkest, grittiest metal I have cranked so loud it hurt and a ridiculous amount of Crazy Train, I can’t even type the words. It’s too painful.

This is about as close as I can approximate:

Shame that show never lived up to its pilot.

As a cancer victim I’ve often marveled, usually in a disappointed sort of way, about the way my perception of life has changed after four years of this disaster. One example is how on that call yesterday I was told to probably expect more transfusions. Ever since the first one I’ve always felt guilty about being transfused, like there was someone more deserving or needy of that blood than me. I feel the same about staying in a busy hospital, like there’s always someone more deserving or needing that room and I need to apologize for taking up space and time.

The dark epiphany is realizing that no, those things exist for people like me. There’s a snap to reality there about how really sick you are that can be pretty brutal, this sudden and painful paradigm shift between looking at the worst-case scenario world you thought you understood and the universe making sure you know full-well that you are in fact in the epicenter of this nightmare.

I don’t know if that’s explainable in a real sense to people who haven’t experienced it. Let me put it this way: you know you have a terminal disease. But there are days when you KNOW you have a terminal disease.

Different levels of comprehension and reality sinking in.

Probably not going to be writing again until next week from the hospital (I promise I’ll include pics). I’ve penned a lot in the last few days, publicly and privately, and I just need Pandora’s Box closed again for now and to get off this pedestal and fade into the shadows to recharge so I can function.

On another note, as a relatively new user on Twitter I discovered two things this week:

  • You can “mute” people that your friends RT so you no longer see the RT’s. Way too much political stuff lately for someone who sits in front of several news feeds all day. I just want to hear and share cancer-related stuff so that was pretty cool — I can keep reading people’s Tweets but cull out with a lil’ work most of the non-cancer stuff I keep having to scroll past. I say this like it’s some new thing but I’m sure everyone but me knew it. I can say, however, that after a good hour of work today I have scrubbed my feed clean and it’s like a whole new experience.
  • When your feed is 99% cancer-related news and you’ve been following 5-10 new people a day from all sorts of flavors of Doom, DO NOT READ YOURSELF AWAKE IN BED WITH IT.  I can handle most stuff but I have ZERO defense against child cancer stories, which were the first things I saw from yesterday. Sobbing yourself awake as you imagine what it must feel like to be told as a parent that the therapies are being stopped and to just enjoy your remaining time together is … I can’t even imagine. I do know I’d rather be the recipient of the soap in a sock code red beating from Full Metal Jacket than ever have that experience in bed again.

I can’t turn this entry positive. I give up.

Cya’s.

Clinical trial pseudo-PSA thingy.

So I’ve crept out of my shell a bit this week on social media.  More like dragged myself kicking and screaming, really — Twitter is anathema to how I communicate.  I suppose on one hand 140 characters makes for a great editor but it’s too draconian for me … I spend more time trying to cull down characters than communicating.  You don’t get nicknames from editors like “Captain Verbosity” and “the King of Clause” and then do well on Twitter.

All I can say is if Twitter had been one of my editors back in the day when I was a reporter I’m pretty sure by now I’d have peed in their coffee cup.

Repeatedly.

I imagine I’ll get to the point (in life, and perhaps this very entry), if I live long enough, where I’ll just start replying “fuck you” to everything so I don’t have to deal with 140 character limits anymore.  EIGHT CHARACTERS IS ALL I NEED, NOW GET OFF MY LAWN YOU CRAZY KIDS WITH YOUR TWEETS AND TINDER AND INSTAGRAM HOOKERS.

But when in Rome, right? So this week I’ve participated in a few, for lack of a better word, groupthinks on Twitter and the information I’ve heard as a result has been somewhat startling to me.  I didn’t even drop an f-bomb, at least I hope not?  Anyways I’ve spent a long time just reading Twitter stuff from Myeloma “royalty,” but it’s a pleasant trip to actually interact with them.  It reminds me of being an intern reporter back in college and being able, thanks to the newness of the whole ‘net thing, to email the lead investigator on the Unibomber case at the time and get almost an immediate response.  I have a feeling as more patients realize their docs are on Twitter that that access may fade a bit, of course, or become more broadcast only, but for now it still has that Wild West-ish feel to it and the niche elite still interact with us plebes.

Hey if nothing else I’ve learned on Twitter that one of the Mayo Clinic docs who’s always Tweeting is a Megadeth fan.  Now that’s just cool.  It’s also the only tweet I think I’ve ever understood from him, so there’s that.

Anywho, May is dedicated to raising awareness of clinical trials.  At a chat on this last night hosted by @CureForward which you can read here, the last question was (paraphrasing) what are you going to do to raise awareness of CT issues?

Normally I wouldn’t do that (I write when I feel like doing some emotional or mental archaeology, not as a public service) but what I’ve learned this week from participating has had me thinking that this is something I should talk about here.  So let me set up my comments with one of the more startling graphics I’ve seen this week:

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When the decision was made to switch my chemotherapy to Pomalyst, my oncologist was recruiting for a clinical trial that added an HDAC inhibitor (ACY-241, also known as Acetylon Pharmaceutical’s Citarinostat) to what I was already going to be using.  The argument for this was I was going to be on Pom & Dex (shudder) anyways, so why not add this?  The confidence and feeling that this was a standard move was great, but as a result I apparently missed out on a lot of the difficulties many patients face with CT’s.  For example, there were tests and paperwork to do, but thankfully CBCI has researchers that help with that — in fact the one assigned to me, Sarah, ended up being such a rockstar as a contact point that the process seemed easy from my perspective.  She and the others answered all of my questions and more, as usual being my best advocate (which is one of many reasons I switched to CBCI in the first place).

Given some of the troubles I had during my CT that was critical.  While something in that three-drug cocktail worked inasmuch as my numbers didn’t get *worse*, I missed a lot of weeks of drugs because one or more of the drugs was pounding on my system so hard my immune system went on vacation.  As in “four hospitalizations for pneumonia and now I’m on IViG every month” vacation.  Having someone in communication with the trial hosts and dealing with all of those issues related to my immune system was gigantic.

Not having read up on CT’s in general I didn’t realize at the time that some of the things I was taking for granted in this process are rare for most patients and I was lucky.  Such as:

  • Most patients don’t have the navigation help and advocacy that I was privy too.
  • Many patients have no idea about clinical trials; worse, neither do their doctors.  The information is scattered, outdated (that government site I linked above is not current, as I learned last night) and it seems as if patients are more lucky to find one than anything else.
  • The paperwork can be impossible to understand for normal folks but it’s pretty critical you understand it.
  • Clinical trials can be an effective first line of defense against cancer, not just where you go when everything else fails (a common misconception).
  • Not all trials pay for your medications while in the trial — I assumed that was a standard.

I realized this week as well that a lot of the questions I asked and those around me were concerned about were based on misconceptions and just a cursory, at best, knowledge of how clinical trials actually work. Unfortunately outside of “hope you have the right doctor” there’s no easy fix for this.  Scattered information, uninformed doctors, costs, travel requirements, complex paperwork full of jargon and legalese, concerns about being a placebo recipient, timing, having to find the information themselves and sell the idea to their own doctors, etc.  Well and the whole death thing, since most people only hear about a CT when someone died participating in one and assume that’s a big risk.

A lot of folks are using social media sites like Facebook groups, Twitter and websites to try to solve these issues but that’s part of the problem, sadly.  Just like with regular news, there’s such an overabundance of non-centralized information that your average patient is not even going to know where to start much less be able to navigate even just a handful of the issues mentioned just above.  And for every @Myeloma_Doc who’s advertising daily on Twitter for the trials at their site, God only knows how many people who are running their own trials don’t do so.

So yeah, it’s a shitshow.  At some point some governing body or group like @CureForward is probably going to have to centralize and disseminate information that cuts through these problems.  Given that it’s easy to assume everyone has gone digital (but I know for a fact that’s not the case), I personally think a hard-copy brochure in every oncologist office that comes from ONE source with pointers towards questions to ask your doctor, where to get trial information and dispelling myths and rumors is a good solution, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

So there you have it.  This is more of a blog entry for newly-minted members of our Doomed tribe, although if you are getting first-line advice here I’d recommend immediate seppuku via KFC spork.  But here’s a few things from my personal list of what I’ve done regarding CT’s that may help you on your own path:

  • Talk to your oncologist.  Are they aware of any trials?  How do they prioritize recommending them in the line of treatments?  Have they ever run one?  Do they have in-office folks to help you navigate the process?
  • Read up.  It sucks, but right now the information is everywhere and nowhere.  Go to the biggest news sources for your particular flavor of cancer (every cancer has one, even tiny lil’ Myeloma has several) and read up.  Check the forums.  Make a list of what trials you find, what other drugs (if any) they are using in the trial, if it has a local arm so you can cut travel down, if the trial host is paying for your care while you are in the trial (huge deal), etc.
  • Check out your insurance information.  I know the stuff they give you reads like some alien manuscript, but you should be able to find out at least in a general sense what they will cover for clinical trials.
  • If your oncologist is no help, well, you have a decision to make.  Keep in mind however there are a ton of folks online that would be more than happy to help you, from individuals with experience to groups putting in the work like CureForward, ASH and others.  I’ll be honest, in my opinion and experience if your oncologist (or any doctor) is not your biggest advocate, the most informed person you know about your disease and the most seemingly caring doctor you have, you have the wrong doctor.  Again your mileage may vary, but don’t die prematurely because you were afraid to ask for help from someone who isn’t helping you, or had to initiate your own treatment path.
  • Be pragmatic and don’t fall for the hype (from your doctor, big pharma, or anyone else).  Immunology, CAR-T, virology, CBD oil, cramming Turmeric up your own ass,  whatever … new technologies are coming out all of the time, but don’t let the hype fuel unrealistic hopes and then become a source of crushing disappointment and depressive episodes if your results aren’t the best case scenario.  Not everyone gets full remission or 20 years off of one drug like we’re always reading about.
  • That being said, if you want to try the bleeding edge stuff years before it hits the market, clinical trials are how you do it.
  • Help yourself while paying it forward.  Obviously when diagnosed we are a lot more concerned about ourselves, but keep in mind the drugs you are taking for your cancer wouldn’t be on the market without clinical trial participants.  Done right you’re at little risk and can get your treatments paid for, so give some serious thought to paying it forward yourself by participating.

Lastly, a few links to get you started:

  • https://www.cureforward.com/ Mentioned several times here and the organizer for the chat linked above.  Definitely good information and sounds like it solves a LOT of issues patients have.
  • http://www.myelomabeacon.com/ For Myeloma specifically this is one of the best sites I’ve found.  Columnists, news, and trial information.  I’ve had some great conversations about what I’ve read there with oncologists — be informed about what’s going on with your cancer!
  • Do a search on Twitter for #ctsm and #mmsm.  Especially right now there’s a lot of information and links to follow from #ctsm, and some great articles.  Given the fact that most articles I find on cancer are so jargoned to Hell that their unreadable I think you’ll find tailoring your tweet searches a bit can have much improved results.
  • Look at the follower lists on Twitter once you find a great source of information like @CureFoward, @MyelomaTeacher, etc. From their follower lists you will find tons of sources that will be relevant to you and your flavor o’ Doom.
  • Go here.  Push the button.  Give this to all of your friends who just don’t get the whole cancer thing.  DO IT.

My apologies if I’ve left someone off (just comment and I’ll add to that list) … at some point I really need to put together a “handy links” page.  I promise no more than half will take you somewhere totally evil and unrelated.  I’m altruistic like that.

So there’s my PSA-ish bit on clinical trials.  Dara tomorrow and I don’t have to be there until 9:15am!  Any reprieve I get from waking up at 6:00 am for 7:30 am appointments is a big deal.  PET Scan on Monday at 8:30 am so following up on making sure that’s scheduled is now off the to-do list.  Need to set a reminder to not get the mandatory Starbucks on Monday morning.  Need to listen to more High on Fire this weekend.  Here’s a bonus PSA … if you think that song sucks, double the volume.  Keep doing that until you are buying Matt Pike t-shirts on Amazon or decide that no, really, HoF sucks.

One last thing.  In answer to a message I received, yes I call people with cancer the Doomed (mostly myself).  Part of that is my philosophy on things, part is an homage to Hunter S. Thompson and mostly it’s my sense of humor.  And yes, I like the word “Doomed.” Almost as much as I don’t like people telling me to shift my attitude on my own goddamn disease.  I have a pragmatic attitude towards my cancer but I’m also told by folks on a weekly basis how amazed they are at how good my attitude about this all is.  You may disagree with using “negative” words and phrases regarding cancer and props to you if you do, sincerely — but if you are offended or think I’m doing harm to my own mental fight or others’ against this death sentence by using these things, perhaps, respectfully, my phrasing and your perception of the world are not compatible.

In other words, whitewash your own life, not mine.

Toodles!

 

Saved by the … 1970’s?

I’ve been somewhat avoiding this entry, as ridiculous as it may seem, simply because I’m scared, quite honestly.  Scared about seeing what I should, or want, or need to put down here.  There’s a stark reality to a word on a page.  Something CREATED that you can’t just stuff back into a box.

This is a travelogue, if you will.  Which makes me a tour guide of … myself?  I’ve always found that an interesting viewpoint, whether as a reporter or editor or blogger.  If you’re reading this you’re on a journey with me, and perhaps similar to the anticipation we all get wondering if the traffic you’re stuck in was born just over the hill in smashed cars and blood on the pavement, I have to think in the back of someone’s head reading this blog there’s a knowledge of what we are going to find over the hill.

Here’s the difference between you and I, however.  You read these words, their order and meaning and message devised in my head and placed here as best I can.  Perhaps you get hope from them (that would be a feat), or more likely some information you didn’t have about Myeloma.  Maybe you know me and this is how you stay updated.  For some I know there’s an empowerment in reading and interacting with others sharing their fate, which is why I make sure to answer (I may miss 1-2, sorry) every comment personally.

But for me this thing is something totally different.  It’s truth.  It’s a love letter to someone you’ll probably never meet.  It’s comprised of words once spoken outloud, given birth, that become unavoidable, and once created I can’t shy away from it.  Just the opposite, I re-read these entries ad nauseum.  If they make me tear up I just keep doing it to inure myself, to explore, to learn, to understand me through this process.  To remember — it’s weird going back two years and reading.

And hey, side effect to chemobrain, I have such a hard time recollecting certain things now it’s like reading a whole new blog, laugh.  I should start re-reading my favorite authors come to think of it.  Anyways …

Long way of saying why I haven’t updated in the last few days.  That experience can be so taxing that the anticipation of it can be too much sometimes, especially when my number one method of coping is to compartmentalize and seal until I feel it’s safe to open the vault door and peek inside.  These entries are often the emotional equivalent of blowing open all the cell doors in a Brazilian prison and seeing what happens.

Don’t ever Google “Brazilian prison riot” by the way.  That’s one of those “what’s been seen can never be unseen” parts of the Internet.

Wednesday morning I met with Megan, the nurse practitioner on Dr. Matous’ team (and also with another member of their team sitting in who works with Sonja, the team’s nurse navigator — each doctor at CBCI has their own group of folks).  Megan actually is the reason I’m at CBCI — she’s a friend of a friend’s sister who related to her some unsatisfactory experiences I had had with my former local oncologist and got me in to see Dr. Matous.  Not only is she as sharp as they come on Myeloma but there’s also an underlying level of tangible “caring” that I rarely see in medical professionals.  I consider myself lucky to have met her, quite honestly.

So we have a 45 minute meeting to discuss some things which I’ll save you the narration of.  Here’s some “highlights,” although that’s certainly an odd term for it:

  • We are definitely in the danger zone.  Queue Archer pestering Lana.
  • We are going to continue with the Dara/Rev treatment for a few more weeks (4?) to get some more data and because it’s seemingly very effective on two of the three metrics you watch with my form of Myeloma (IgG, M-Spike) even if the Kappa is going the wrong way.
  • We’ll be doing weekly appointments with a doctor and weekly Myeloma tests now (monthly before).
  • PET Scan time.  Only had one before so not entirely sure what this tells us, but that was the plan BEFORE I told her about some of the pain I’ve had bone-wise lately (skull, lower back, etc.) and once related became even more urgently needed.
  •  The next step for me if this is not sustainable is probably going to be something called PACE (we’ll discuss that in a minute).
  • After Dara, or PACE, I cannot be off chemotherapy.  Every time I have my numbers go to Hell so fast you’d think they had a VIP invite.
  • The step after that *may* be some sort of CAR T trial.  CBCI is most likely going to have one but given the previous bullet point I may need to travel for one to get the timing right — again I cannot be off chemo given what we’ve seen so far.
  • There’s no good way to prop up hemoglobin counts like you can with white blood cell counts, apparently.  i.e., Neulasta, IViG, etc. There used to be and it was a standard of care, but due to heart issues it’s use was severely restricted.
  • An autologous stem cell transplant (someone else’s stem cells) may be on the plate for the future.  Risky and a huge time commitment among other things.  Didn’t even know they did those for Myeloma.
  • I managed to make not one but two medical professionals tear up with one comment.  Basically that I just needed 13 more years, even if it was slogging through chemotherapy 24/7 to get there (we had been talking about living on chemo for the rest of your life versus not even a maintenance regimen).  From knowing me Megan knew pretty much immediately that that was when my daughter turns 18 and explained to the other nurse in the room, who has a young child like Megan and I both do.
  • One of the reasons my cancer may be so frustrating to deal with chemo-wise is perhaps there are not one but TWO clones at work.  That could explain the weird way the Kappa is not marching in step with the M-Spike and IgG.  First time I had ever heard that was even a possibility.

As I remember it those are the main points we hit.  Couple things to dig into from that list.  First, Megan was telling me how she had talked to Dr. Matous the previous evening and he knew my numbers off of the top of his head.  She let me know that’s not the norm and that he cares about me.  That may seem like a very small thing in a very scary list of things, but it meant more to me than anything else said yesterday.  I have a hard time buying that many medical professionals even read this but man, you want a patient to believe in you?  That’s how it’s done.  A little caring moves mountains.  You want someone fighting for you in this, not doing their day job, capiche?

Secondly, PACE.  I checked with a friend with Myeloma doing significantly better than I am and that was news to her as well.  I also don’t recall that one off the list in any doctor’s office of potential treatments.  I’m reasonably sure, since I’m somewhat well-read in Myeloma, that there’s just not a lot of talk out there on this one and doctors don’t even mention it given why it’s used.  The key word I kept seeing over and over again is “salvage.”  It’s a salvage chemotherapy, so in a way a hail Mary pass.  At least that’s how this feels.  We’re not calmly sitting around pondering quality of life issues over IV versus oral chemos and what’s hot now, we’re calling the National Guard and getting ready to light up Berkeley like the Branch Davidian compound in Waco.  It sounds like there’s some variance in the exact cocktail used with this (Velcade or Thalidomide, for example).

So DT-PACE:

  • P = Cisplatin or Platinol.  Mmmm, 1978.  Cisplatin (actually discovered in 1845) is licensed for medical use.  1978: the Sex Pistols play their last show, the Blues Brothers perform their first (on SNL), Van Halen and the Dead Kennedy’s debut albums, and most importantly Iron Maiden hires Paul as their lead singer and records a 4-song demo including Prowler.  Best band ever.  EVAH.
  • A = Adriamycin or doxorubicin.  What year did Nixon resign, Cher file for divorce from Sonny, Neil Peart join Rush and the Ramones perform for the first time at CBGB’s?  1974.  Those two drugs are the same, as far as I can tell; Adriamycin was a trade name for doxorubicin.
  • C = Cyclophosphamide.  Set the Wayback Machine for 1959, Peabody.  Jimmy Hendrix buys his first electric guitar, my dad’s favorite Buddy Holly goes down in a plane crash in Iowa along with the Big Bopper and Richie Valens, and Cyclophosphamide is approved for use.  This one I’ve had before when I first was diagnosed as part of the “CyBorD” triplet (Cyclophosphamide, Velcade (Bortezemib) and that wonderful (not really) Dex.
  • E = Etoposide.  Welcome back to ’83, when Thriller debuts at #1 on the charts, Mick Jones is kicked out of the Clash, the members of KISS take off the makeup, the first Phish show happens and Etoposide hits the market.

The “DT” is Dex and Thalidomide (predecessor to Revlimid/Pomalyst) but it seems like there are variations on this theme (using Velcade instead, etc.).  Only recognize a few of those names?  Yeah me too.  I wasn’t sure what Megan meant when she said it’s an old-school chemotherapy.  More like 800 of them.  At once.  96-hour infusion, only can do this once or twice due to the severity.

In looking at that list maybe I should show up with a giant afro and bellbottoms humming some BeeGees.  CB?  Still got that pink afro wig?

How’d we get here seemingly out of nowhere?

I know the answer, a combination of semi-effective treatments and a few ill-timed but necessary chemotherapy holidays.  I’m still suffering from the whiplash, however.  I went from the, for lack of a better analogy, “softcore” chemotherapies to the “XXX scar-you-for-life and terrify the kids while it kicks your dog” chemo with little to no warning.  There are so many questions this is raising and emotions churning and frothing like some stormy seas out of a novel where people say “yarr” and the great white whale appears on the horizon that I don’t even know which way is up anymore.  It’s given birth to a few feelings, however, that stand out:

Yarr.  I just wanted to say that again since it’s a joke between my daughter and I.

“Knock knock.”

“Who’s there?”

“Interrupting Pirate.”

“Interrupt –“

“YARRRRRRRRRRR!”

Cracks me up every time.  Sorry, your list:

  • I’ve never “feared” my cancer.  That’s an odd realization.  I thought I did, for sure.  Now I fucking do.  So if someone was just trying to make a point with this to not take cancer lightly, I get it.  Seriously.  No I will not start going to church, please stop asking.
  • Taking that a step further, I’ve never felt the grasp of death before.  I think I know more about impending doom than non-terminal peoples after four years of Myeloma, but there’s a big difference between having a concept in your head with some nebulous future date (“eventually this will probably cause my death”) and what I feel now.  It’s gone from 2-D to 3-D, if that makes sense?  I feel like we’re in the “get the paperwork in order” phase of things and I can’t escape that feeling.  Not that my thoughts on it have changed at all (only really care due to Ariana and her future, yada yada yada), but I thought I’d have a bit more time to get there.  That feeling is now gone.
  • There’s a very disappointing jealousy I’ve hid from everyone for a long time.  I get the feeling all of us doomed do this even though we don’t talk about it, because it makes you feel shitty.  It’s being jealous of survivors, those for whom all of the chemicals and years worked.  I hate that because it makes me feel petty and selfish, which is logical.  It’s just so hard reading about how someone survived on Revlimid for 20 years or is now in remission or what have you when you aren’t.  But it’s a full disclosure sort of blog, so sorry for admitting what most of us feel but won’t talk about.

So that’s where we’re at.  Well I’m at; hopefully you, my friend, are not here with me except as an observant whisper in the dark.  I won’t be dropping dead tomorrow, I doubt, but in four years we’ve torched quite a bit of the new therapies and standards and we’re worse off than when we started.  What’s left looks and feels pretty grim to me right now.

Sure there’s hope.  I’m still fighting along with the best medical team on the planet as far as I’m concerned.  I’m taking the drugs, making all of the appointments — ask around and folks will tell you those are the danger signs of giving up (no shows, not taking the drugs, etc.).

I figured something else out today.  My father, upon hearing my diagnosis four years ago, has mentioned a few times since that that was the only time he’s seen me scared.

I realized today I’ve just learned to hide it better since then.

PS:  You know your cancer’s rare when the spellcheck keeps correcting it to “Melanoma.”

Watch, I’ll have that now too and we’ll all go “how ironic.”  Knock on wood.

Last thing that I just recalled.  Don’t read more into this than is necessary but with all these thoughts of death and the timeline feeling like it’s shifted I came up with what I want on my tombstone.  “End of Line.”  Sure, put some family stuff above that, but that needs to be on there.

Tron dork, what can I say.

Back to the grind.

Sitting here at work.  Actually I should say “slouched” here at work … it’s hard to sit normally without pain still a few weeks post-op, a feeling enhanced by this being the first time I’m wearing actual pants and a belt for the first time in a few weeks.

I seriously considered rocking the Cabela’s fleece pants I’ve turned into a uniform since the surgery, but that just feels a bit too casual. Plus both pairs I own are dirty as I noticed this morning.  Noticed forlornly, I should say, while looking at one of them just taunting me from the top of the laundry basket.  As if I could hear them tell me how they would just snuggle there all day with my ‘Archer for President 2016’ t-shirt while I went to a desk job.

Damned pants.

Only operating on about two hours of sleep today.  I haven’t slept well since the surgery in fact — I’ve been trying to track down the “why” of that every night but I think it’s a combination of things.  No chemotherapy, pain and discomfort, this cough that won’t go away, etc.  I used to just go upstairs and hit the mattress to fall asleep, but in the last week I find myself up almost every night at some ungodly hour wondering “now what?”  Knowing I was going to be driving today took all of the opioids I have off the table, so I’m just trying to suck it up.  Hell, I made it this far already.

The next few months should be odd.  Dr Matous wants to get me into a clinical trial that I linked earlier and am too lazy/busy to look up again, but it has two pre-reqs that are dictating my current care:  can’t have taken Dara yet, and I have to have relapsed since my last treatment.  There’s a waiting list for this trial so they are thinking March/April to start, which times decently with my surgery recovery.  That’s a long time to be off chemotherapy, however — the only time I’ve done a stint this long is when I was doing my transplant.  Can’t even imagine what my numbers will get to, although it’s freaking me out a bit.

I’ve done a lot of introspection in the last several weeks.  That doesn’t sound like a lot of time, but it’s (a) obviously coming on the shoulders of much more introspection before and (b) you find something better to do when you can’t sit up and you’re afraid to cough for two weeks.  I’m not going to step-by-step it but my conclusion, frustratingly, is that there isn’t a ton I can do to change the things bothering me.  And there’s a lot bothering me.  In fact I pretty much can’t stand who I’ve become in some ways, now that of course it’s too late to fix some of those problems (career choices, relationships, location, paths taken, etc.).

I want this heroic story for someone to tell my daughter someday about her father, you know?  Or at least one that makes her proud of who I was.  That’s just not “this” to me right now.  It’s an epitaph hunt.  And I hate what it says right now.

Problem is, as someone once told me, is that as we get older we put tent pegs in the ground that get harder and harder and too numerous to pull up.

I embody that, I think, like some poster child for apathetic decision-making.

Some changes are simply too risky when you have cancer.  In ways that does run contrary to what you’d logically think, right?  “Man if I had cancer I’d sign up for sky diving and shark disciplinarian and GOP booth guy at Berkeley and blah blah blah because what do I have to lose?”  I’ve noticed that most of the fears I spent my life surrounded by are gone, certainly.  I don’t see me getting a pet spider anytime soon, granted, but the rest?  What do I care?  Go get chemotherapy next to a pair of women chatting about secondary cancers sometime.  Spend a lunch hour getting filled with poison or trying not to cry in a car.  Look your child in the eye and feel every ounce of the ultimate failure you feel like as your body fails and you can’t play with her “right now” but the “right now’s” are stacking up.  Get a few bad blood tests under your belt.  Have a few therapies fail. Yada yada yada.

Now tell me, what’s left to fear anymore?  The dark?  Laugh.

That being said, however, you get a few new fears with a diagnosis.  Losing my health insurance would certainly be one.  Really any major lifestyle change — let’s be honest, I’ve got it good; better than most, in fact.  I can’t imagine the extra burden of having to scramble to make ends meet, or having terrible (or no) insurance.  I really should add up what this has all cost so far but I know for a fact it’s well in the seven figure range by now.

And that’s sort of the point — so you get this diagnosis and start looking back at things, wishing you could tweak this or re-do that, but now the big shifts are too risky.  This level of introspection has certainly fomented a lot of smaller changes, though.  So while I don’t feel comfortable starting a new career or moving, for example, I can put the goddamn phone down and interact with my daughter more.

Net-net, it’s turned me into trying to be the person I wanted to be within the confines of a box I don’t want to be in but will not be able to realistically get out of.  That’s about as succinctly, albeit inelegantly, as I can put it.  I can’t go be a tech rockstar in San Francisco now, or take a coding job like I should have 20 years ago since tech has always been my passion.  It’s a bit late to go start up a dive shop in the USVI.  Hell with all of our support and docs here it’s a bit late to go live on a beach somewhere.  But I need to find more of the little things, the footnotes, that hopefully people will remember about me.  Because I’m finally starting to actually learn, not just pay lip service to, the stuff that apparently actually mattered.

Straightening out the curves.

Thanks to input from a friend I decided to move my blog from Blogger to WordPress, which has been pretty easy.  Not so easy, however, has been the emotional impact of having to go back and read the whole thing to tag everything right, get the formatting fixed, etc.

Whoops.

In doing so, however, I realized there is a lot of information missing, gaps in the story that I should probably fix.  I know I don’t have all of the information some want readily available — I think I’m a bad blood cancer patient, honestly.  Everyone I talk to leads with their numbers like they’re introducing themselves as Patrick McGoohan’s Number 6 from ‘The Prisoner’ … “I am M-Spike 1.9 IgG 2,400,” if you will.  Me, I barely pay attention. What difference does it make?  I know the trends.  I have an incurable but treatable cancer, which sounds good except when you’ve already blown through several treatments in less than that many years you start wondering just how “treatable” it is.  Plus if I knew my #’s better I’d be a walking ball of anxiety.

I often ponder putting together an Excel spreadsheet tracking it all, the typical “hi, I work in finance” answer to the world’s problems.  Much like a surfer waiting for a wave to ride, as anyone who partakes can tell you I’ve been waiting for a good solid Dexamethasone blast o’ energy to do that.  Have a box with all of the lab results and paperwork just waiting for the chemical motivation to kick in.

So of course I just got taken off of Dex.

Someday, Excel, SOMEDAY.

Dex, for those unaware, is the steroid they add to EVERY (seemingly) chemo treatment I’ve seen so far for multiple myeloma.  My understanding is it increases the efficacy of the chemo drugs, allowing for a lower chemo drug dosage?  Either way with very few exceptions I’ve been on this crap for almost four years now, and sometimes if you get the timing down you can be super productive.  I cannot tell you how many times I’ve re-organized our pantries, the garage, the spare closets … great drug if you don’t mind the weight gain and ‘roid rage that accompanies it.

Anyhow, we’ve entered rambling town, so let’s rein it back in a bit.  Like I was saying,  when reading back through things I found a lot of gaps and events that don’t make sense unless you know a bit more about what was happening at the time.  While I don’t write here to tell a clean, linear story, I bow to the logic that one needs to be told at least to a certain degree.  So a few things that I think will help color in the gaps:

  • Diagnosed in mid-2013 when some GI-related blood tests for recurrent diverticulitis showed red flags.  Went to RMCC at Rose for further testing, second opinion at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN with Dr. Arleigh McCurdy.  Decide to have MC “take over” my care with the local oncologist, Dr. Alan Feiner, at RMCC in charge of administrating everything locally.
  • Began CyBorD chemotherapy, consisting of Cytoxin, Velcade and Dexamethasone.  Velcade was done at RMCC at Sky Ridge, the closest RMCC to my office / home.
  • Dr. McCurdy quit the MC for husband’s job but recommended her colleague, Dr. Joe Mikhael, at the Arizona Mayo Clinic.  Went down to meet with him, have him take charge of my care, and plan for a stem cell transplant.
  • Began therapy locally, and eventually anti-depressants.
  • Temporarily move to Arizona in February 2014 for autologous stem cell transplant (“SCT”) at the Mayo Clinic (Day Zero = 2/26/2014, some consider that their new birthday for some reason).
  • Back to Colorado in late March 2014 (30-day post transplant mark).
  • Summer 2014, 100-day SCT results don’t indicate remission, Dr. Mikhael begins Revlimid with Dexamethasone as a treatment.
  • September 2014, lower Revlimid dosage (too hard on my blood cell counts) from 25 mg to 15 mg.
  • January 2015, switch local oncologist from Dr. Feiner at RMCC to Dr. Matous at CBCI.
  • February 2015, Dr. Matous adds Ninlaro (oral version of Velcade) to Revlimid and Dex therapy.
  • Summer-ish 2015, Dr. Matous ends Ninlaro, adds Biaxin for a few months (BiRD).
  • Tried to wean off of Lexapro (the way you are supposed to).  Bad idea, turns out I was relying on it a lot more than I thought!
  • May 2016, start clinical trial for Pomalyst, Dex and ACY-241.
  • Mid-2016ish begin intravenous immunoglobulin (IVIg) since I’m getting sick (pneumonia) on almost a monthly basis.
  • October / November 2016, decide to stop going to Mayo Clinic.

So that should clear up a few blanks, anyhow.  Again it would probably be more helpful if I had all the #’s handy to show my stats at some of those bullet points, sorry.  I also feel like there’s a lot that happened in 2015 as well that I’m forgetting but I wrote nothing down — let’s just call 2015 a rough year and move along.  So mix in 4 hospitalizations for pneumonia in 2016, 3-4 diverticulitis attacks and here we are ready for a stomach surgery and off any chemotherapy (and out of that clinical trial).  That should bring things up to date, but thanks to chemobrain I may add to this later.

Oh yeah, the Mayo Clinic decision at the end there?  Given that I was in the clinical trial this year and Dr. Matous and Mikhael were pretty much eye-to-eye on everything to begin with, I made the call to can the MC trips after having to cancel two at the end of the year due to illness.  I love Dr. Mikhael but it became kind of silly for me to blow $1k or more every three months while in the trial to go down there and have him look over things that we couldn’t really change (since I was in a trial).  Perhaps someday I’ll go back but I have full faith in Dr. Matous and CBCI for now, and if I do another SCT it will be at PSL here with the CBCI crew instead of in Arizona again.

Shame, I’ll miss the banana bread french toast at Butterfields and Z Tejas.  And renting a Mercedes from Sixt — sometimes along with “food for the soul” you need an auto for the soul as well.

I wanted to address something from a comment last week because I’ve been pondering it the last few days.  In it the mother of a friend who is going through chemotherapy for another form of cancer noted that she didn’t know how I could “bounce back” from a failed trial.

Here’s the happy smiley cancer answer, which I’m posting in this blog from atop Mt. Everest after doing a free-climb without oxygen for blood cancers right before a helicopter whisks me away to a raw vegan meal so I have some energy for the 1,000k or whatever marathons are called now I’m running in this afternoon and then tonight where there’s a photo shoot for just my smile because gosh ducky darnit, I’m just so happy and lucky to have cancer and yay puppies!  There’s always another wonderful chemotherapy to try, and we’re all sure the next one’s going to have less side effects and I’ll be on it 20 years from now!  Hey here’s my two dogs now, Hope and Cure, to tell you in doggy sign language about how me having cancer has improved their lives!  So buck up, little trooper, there’s nothing to worry about!

Have you met that person yet?  They always seem fake to me.  I know that’s unfair, but I can’t help it.  Nor can I help wanting to punch them in the nuts.  People like that, in situations like this, make you feel even worse than you normally do in my opinion.  You can’t really say anything either, because we’re all fighting the same battle.  Hell I envy those people, although I question whether they really exist — either way it doesn’t work for me.  Either it feels like I’m lying to myself, or I’m lying to myself.  So how do you really deal with bad news on this wonderful path we’re on?

Anyways, here’s the secret:  I don’t think about it.

So just don’t think about your cancer, folks.  Next question?

Really though, that is the answer.  This is a horror show that never ends.  It doesn’t take a day off.  No matter what I do this cloud doesn’t go away.  It’s in every car I drive, every waiting room, every ceiling tile I stare at in a hospital.  It sits next to me at lunch, picks the radio station and next song on my commutes.  I strap it in right after Ari is in her car seat, and I tuck it in at night right next to me.  In fact there’s only one place I’ve found so far it doesn’t penetrate on its own, and I guard that jealously because it’s the only real relief I’ve had in almost four years.

I will die from multiple myleloma, most likely.  My daughter’s daddy will be taken away.  And if that’s not bad enough, because I’ve always had guilt issues, I feel a CRUSHING amount of guilt over that fact on a daily basis (the daughter bit).  It taints every possible thing I do, bar none.  So I’m driving to, say, work, and instead of the usual daydreams you’d get doing that I get a sudden image of my daughter crying in some hospital about why daddy didn’t take care of himself better so he didn’t die.  Or I replay actual conversations I’ve overheard between my daughter and wife about how daddy can’t play right now because he’s sick and needs his rest (that happens more than I’d like).

I can keep listing those, but this isn’t Monday Depression Spiral with your host, Rich.  How do you deal with the constant stream of disappointment?

Simple. You don’t.

What else can you do?

Should I blast out of my chair in the doctor’s office, shake my fist at the sky and scream “Why, WHY??!!” in some Oscar-winning performance every time we swap to a new chemo?  That just sounds exhausting.  Maybe I could shout about how it’s all so unfair?

So I suck it up, get in the car, try not to think about my daughter and if I do, save the tears until the sunglasses are on and just drive, man.  Music up, all energy on banishing any thought.  Just another day.  Don’t think.  Do.  It’s just a day, just a moment in time.  Because in the end, and this is really the point, I have to function, regardless of what LabCorp or a doctor says.  I have a kiddo, and a mortgage, and responsibilities.

I am going to die from this.

“Oh well.”

Does that seem cavalier?  I’ve been dealing with the concept of my own demise daily since I was diagnosed.  I don’t want to die (well mostly I don’t), but I’ve had almost four years to come to grips with the concept.  I’m not surprised anymore.  Trust me I’ve gone over every possible permutation, scenario … it just doesn’t bother me a hell of a lot at this point.  So what is the point of stressing about a test result, or a new chemotherapy regimen?  I worry more about the logistics and side-effects; the need itself is no longer a concern.

A failed test?  Man I’ve seen so many horrible test results in the past few years it’s almost funny to me now.  “Yep, still on the train to Suckville.  Next.”  What else do you summon in protest when they’re ALL bad, except dark laughter and a few tears snuck in when nobody’s watching?

I have my moments.  I have entire weeks, as my wife can tell you.  But most of the time, regardless of how dark it gets inside, I try to keep it positive.  Who wants to be around negative people all the time?  So I tell black jokes about my health that are probably uncomfortable for people to laugh at (my wife hates those) but make me smile while I try to ignore the situation and just do what I can to make it through the day.  I don’t think more than a day ahead as I’ve found that leads to thinking about things that can blow major holes in the emotional walls, and I breathe a lot.  Lots of sighs too.  You can’t really do anything else.

So that’s the answer.

You get used to it BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO.  Because responsibilities, and guilt, and all the other fun things you’ve brought as baggage (or wreckage) to the party.  Because if *I* can’t deal with it, how will anyone else dealing with my life?

Tony Robbins, I am not.  Sorry.  I’ve been asked some permutation of this almost since the beginning and it’s the only answer that rings true to me anymore.  You deal with it because there’s no other choice.  If you want to take into that cancer fighter’s angst and let the world know how you’re going to beat this goddamn thing, more power to you.  If you want to stay in bed all day bemoaning your fate, hey, that’s your life choice and it’s not mine to criticize — trust me I get it.  Me?  I just try not to think about it.  I already have, do, will.  I’m far more interested in the few parts of my life I can salvage outside of this shitshow than to dwell on it any more than I already have to.

“It” doesn’t get better.  I do, at rationalizing, being pragmatic, avoiding the disasters and trying to stay positive, if possible, but at the least stay standing.  I can’t do more than that.

“Why didn’t daddy take better care of himself so he’d still be here?”

I do that to myself a lot, have that conversation that is. This situation constantly leads to these sketchy little daydreams, envisioning on a micro level what the world will be like when you’re gone. I think I did that before this all began, but death takes on a much more real and imminent feeling with a cancer diagnosis.  It causes guilt, immense amounts of it, that are totally unfair but that you have to deal with.  I wonder sometimes if a lot of folks sadness about cancer comes from that.  On the bright side at least I know this is just a mental game being played and to not wallow in it too much.  But if you can’t accept the truth, as painful as it is, then what can you accept?

It’s because I just didn’t, Ariana.  Because I was selfish.  Because I knew smoking and chewing tobacco was a bad idea and did it anyways.  Because I knew that that food was fucking garbage but ate it anyways.  Because I chose to ignore that all the chemicals and preservatives and food colors were most likely not doing me any favors.  Because I had wifi and wireless signals caressing my DNA for 40+ years and who knows what impact that had.  Because I drank too many Diet Dr. Peppers and touched the wrong bathroom door handle. Because I never thought it would happen to me.  Who knows?  In the end because I was weak somehow, and the giant invisible hand of Darwin or [insert deity here] decided to clean up the gene pool.

And I will be sorry, and feel a guilt so large that nothing can assuage it, every second of every day, until the day they take me from you.  But until then I’ll try to just breathe and do what I can to stick around a lil’ bit longer, spoil you a bit, and see what happens to us.

So here’s to the next chemotherapy, bring that fucker on.